How to Motivate yourself

Self Development Tips - On Motivation

Why can't I motivate myself?

Trying to motivate yourself when you don't fee like doing something, can seem impossible. What a lot of people don't realise is that motivation doesn't really exist. 

We as humans are programmed to survive, which is why we also have self doubt and feel we should choose the safer option. 

People that are highly productive and seem so 'motivated', in fact have developed excellent habits.

 If you find that you can never get out of bed on time and always push the snooze button, even if you had intended to get up early, this is because your brain just automatically knows you push the snooze button and tells your body to do this.

It is like driving, if you drive to work or a route you know well, have you ever driven to a destination and not fully remember driving the  full way, thinking 'how did I get here?', this is because your brain is so familiar with the route that it automatically knows, like on autopilot. 

How can I motivate myself? 

In order t motivate yourself, having a goal you want to work towards is a great place to start. To begin with choose a goal you believe that you can achieve. 

Once you have focused yourself on a goal, make sure it is something that you are passionate about and enjoy. 

Trying to motivate yourself to do something you don't like will always be difficult, for anyone.
Once you have a goal in mind, then write down what you need to do to achieve this? 

If you are a blogger and always tired after work, then having a goal to write 500 words, 3 evenings a week is an achievable goal. When you feel like you have accomplished something, you feel better and are therefore more motivated to do more work. 

This is why you always here, getting started is the hardest. There may be more work in the future but the beginning is when you see the least amount of results and have to consciously motivate yourself. 

Next is where you look at your habits? What do you usually do after work? cook dinner, play with your kids, pout them to bed, chill out with family and friends, watch Netflix or play video games? Do you go to the gym after work? This would mean getting home later. 

Look at your activities, and identify if they are preventing you from  achieving what you wish to accomplish. 

Creating great routines is an imporant way to achieve success. Taking tome out to rest is also super important to recharge. Incorporating a Self Care Routine can help you feel relaxed and then when you have work to do it is easier as you are more rested and mentally prepared.

How do I find the time to Motivate myself?

Everyone has the same amount of time in a day, it is how we use it that separates us from being productive and achieving our goals to not being motivated. This is where looking at your habits is super important. 

Identifying the situations or bad habits that are preventing your from being productive and eating into your time are what you need to work on in order to be 'motivated'. Does this make sense? If you ahem any questions up to now, please ask in the comments. 

For me, when I get stuck in a lazy slump, I try to go out and get some air, do some exercise, meet with a friend or a group of friends to chill out. Although that isn't all possible at this time, it can break your usual routine, give you a fresh perspective and get your creative juices flowing.

How do you keep working when you are just not feeling it?

Once you are more relaxed then start to identify what are your worst habits and how to change them? This is about becoming self aware, a really amazing book on differentiating between what choosing our own habits and listening to our own self doubts is The Power of Now, which I wrote about in my blog post 5 Books that will change your thinking for the better.

To find the time to motivate yourself, firstly you have to deciede where you waste the most time, then when you are about to say watch Netflix for 2 hours before going to be decide, not is my time to write 500 words, do a 15 minute work out, watch one tutorial on how to edit images in photoshop.

I find setting time limits is a really great way to get moving, being motivated is about being active. How often have you done something with a friend or when you were a child made to go to somewhere you didn't want to and it was a really great experience. We are creatures of habit that like to be in a safe environment.

What can I do to change my Habits to be more motivated?

A really great tip I found is from a motivational speaker called Mel Robinson. I first found her watching Ted Talks - which are inspiring, but you still have to take action on what you watch to make you feel motivated.

Mel Robinson shares her story, which you can watch on YouTube, about how she didn't want to get up every morning, had not motivation to deal with her problems, just wanted to stay in bed all day.

This was until she realised that she would never be motivated or want to deal with her problems, she needed to just go, start, make a change. This is when she shares her technique for overcoming initial fear and just doing something. 

Mel Robins tip is to count backwards like a rocket launching, form 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 and just commit to the action you wish to achieve, so getting when your alarm goes, texting whoever you have been putting off, anything that you have been too afraid to do. 

By counting backwards you are tricking your mind, it isn't giving yourself the time to let all the negative self talk and doubt com in, just take action and action breeds results. 

Conclusion on How to Motivate yourself 

  1. Identify what you love to do first, where your interest lie, what you wish you could do, what is it you want to achieve. 
  2. Set out goals that you can work on daily or during the week, achieving small goals add up to achieving your long term goal.
  3. Identify where you spend your time and can you use it more wisely, reading, writing, working out, spending time on meal prep.
  4. Take it one step at a time, being consistent is key to achieving your goals, creating new habits is how you will become consistent on good days as well as the days you do not feel motivated. 
  5. Reward yourself when you achieve small goals, every new habit that moves you closer to your goal is something to be celebrated, this doesn't have to be something big.
  6. Just keep going, everybody faces setbacks, but leaning from the setbacks and moving forward is a valuable skill to develop and why most people fail. Just keep going!
  7. Take time to yourself, to recharge, focus on what you want to achieve and reflect on what you have achieved. This will Gove you an insight into where you are at the moment and what you should focus on. Incorporating a time to Reflect in my Self Care Sunday Routine means I never miss this. 

If you made it this far, thank you for reading and if you have anything to add, I would love to hear just drop a comment below!! xxx

Images are not mine and sourced from Pinterest. Please comment for credit.

No comments:

Powered by Blogger.